When you’re leaving for college, it seems like you will definitely stay in contact with everyone from high school. You grew up with those guys, so how could you not?
The reality is that it’s a lot harder to stay friends with people who are moving all over the country.
In my closest group of high school friends, one went to Pittsburgh, another to Philadelphia and another to Los Angeles. (Yes, I was very angry with all their college choices.)
Lucky for me, my high school friends and I are pretty close. We don’t stay in touch all the time. I can’t even remember the last time we used our archaic group chat.
But every time I see them, there is seriously no change. We all still play “Just Dance” and make dinner and talk all night. Cheesy, sure, but it’s incredible.
Here are three tips to help you stay close to your high school friends as you all go to different colleges.
Phone calls are always better than text messages.
I think it’s a lot better to pick up the phone and call your close friends for a chat instead of texting the whole time. It’s faster to actually talk about all the countless hours you haven’t spent together. Along with that, it’s way more personal than a generic text. Call your friends.
Make an effort to see each other.
Sure, it’s sad that your friends have moved all over the country. But here’s a better way to look at it: Now, you have lots of free places to stay. I have a free place to stay in Los Angeles, which is so nice to know, considering a trip to Los Angeles from North Carolina isn’t exactly cheap. Since everyone is all over the place, make an effort to visit your friends and have them them visit you at least once a year. (Here’s what I learned when I visited my friend at USC.)
Reconnect over winter holidays — and do as you did in high school.
Virtually everyone has a break over Christmas, which is the perfect time to get everyone together. When my friends and I come back home, we do the same things that we did in high school — like holiday dinners and driving around the town to see the lights. It’s nice to have a tradition to come back to every year.
The most important thing is that both people make the effort to keep the friendship together. It’s also important to remember that some friendships fade with time. Either way, if you think your high school friends are worth it, take the time to keep at it.